Forward
Introduction Allowing change & growth The Savior Expectations & conditions Insecurity & low self-esteem Not being realistic Ignoring the problems Sexual intimacy Losing the intimacy Power struggles Over-nurturing Affairs Not your authentic self Freedom of self-expression Fear of loneliness Ownership, property or object… Addiction to a lover Lessons Should you break up? Ending a relationship Spiritual evolving relationships Greater evolved relationships Relationships & Subtle Bodies Conclusion |
Just as there are many degrees of love, there are also many degrees of sexual intimacy. Depending on the moment, your stage in life, your partner, and your relationship, your experiences with sexual intimacy will vary. If passionate sex is the primary bond holding you and your partner together, you may eventually find yourself in an incomplete relationship, no matter how intense the lovemaking is.
While sex can be incredibly therapeutic, it shouldn’t be used solely as a means to “feel good.” It’s impossible to build a grounded and balanced relationship if sex is merely used for stress relief, personal gratification, or as a solution to all issues. A healthy relationship needs room for friendship and mutual respect, allowing both partners to feel whole. In relationships that revolve around sex, intimacy can be misused as a way to avoid addressing deeper issues. For example, if one partner comes home tired or moody and seeks intimate lovemaking to feel better, it can lead to pressure on the other partner. Forcing or manipulating a partner into sex can be deeply damaging and feel like abuse, even within a committed relationship. Our bodies are not tools for others to use or abuse. Sexual manipulation and addiction can lead to unhappiness. Using sex to hold onto a partner or improve a relationship will always fail. If a partner feels like a mere sex object, they will start to question their value in the relationship and may seek a more fulfilling connection elsewhere. Sex should not be used to resolve disagreements, as it only covers up deeper issues. The body is a physical manifestation of the soul, and when shared, it can be a gift of affection and spiritual bonding. Sexual intimacy should be a celebration of unity, not just physical gratification. Sex remains exciting and meaningful when it’s experienced spiritually, respecting it as a divine merger to create oneness. Each act of lovemaking can be a new, profound experience if approached with this mindset. When two people engage in sex, there’s a significant transfer of vital energies, which can be powerful and addictive. This energy demands respect and should be approached with mindfulness. Sex adds depth to a relationship, but it shouldn’t be the sole foundation. Early in a relationship, when excitement is high, it’s tempting to use sex as a “next step.” However, true intimacy comes with time and shared experiences. Lack of sex can indicate underlying emotional issues unless both partners are mutually content with the decision. Meaningful and fulfilling sexual relationships are rooted in emotional connection. Sex can connect you to your partner on a deep emotional level, helping you understand your own desires and limitations. It can free you from inhibitions and enhance your overall well-being. Physically, sex has numerous health benefits, from weight loss to improved sensory perception. It supports fantasy and maintains vitality, providing a powerful way for couples to bond. However, deviant or forced sex can be extremely damaging to a partner’s psychology. Sexuality may be essential in a relationship, and those who desire it should not feel guilty. Emotional support is crucial for comfortable sexual experiences. If there are issues with sex, such as trauma or differing desires, patience and understanding are key. A fulfilling sexual relationship involves love, desire, creativity, balance, grounding, fantasy, connection, intimacy, sensuality, pleasure, and well-being. If your partner lacks sexual desire, it’s not your fault nor theirs. It may simply mean you’re not the right match or there may be other conditions such as medical or psychological problems. Never force yourself or your partner into uncomfortable sexual activities. There’s no one “correct way” to have sex, so enjoy what you like and experiment when ready. Non-sexual physical contact, like hugging, is also a great way to be intimate. Hugging shares fine energies and has soothing and healing properties, making it a wonderful way to connect with your partner. |