Forward
Introduction Allowing change & growth The Savior Expectations & conditions Insecurity & low self-esteem Not being realistic Ignoring the problems Sexual intimacy Losing the intimacy Power struggles Over-nurturing Affairs Not your authentic self Freedom of self-expression Fear of loneliness Ownership, property or object… Addiction to a lover Lessons Should you break up? Ending a relationship Spiritual evolving relationships Greater evolved relationships Relationships & Subtle Bodies Conclusion |
Are you someone who gives so much to your partner that you end up neglecting your own needs? Often, people don’t even realize they’re doing this. It might stem from a previous breakup that left deep wounds or from a childhood where love had to be earned through extraordinary acts.
Over-nurturing can be a way to hold on to a partner’s love out of fear of losing them. However, a good relationship is built on a solid foundation of trust and mutual contributions. You should trust that your partner cares for you enough to allow you to nurture yourself too. When someone can’t nurture themselves, the care they give to their partner may not be genuine. They might be trying to control their partner by keeping them close with constant gifts and pampering, which can lead to neediness and co-dependency. This behavior prevents the partner from developing their own strength and autonomy, hindering their potential and ability to contribute to the relationship. Gifts, while appreciated, cannot replace genuine affection, love, or intimacy. They might temporarily hide the lack of these essential elements but cannot fill the void permanently. Over-nurturers hinder their partners by not allowing them to learn how to nurture themselves. This behavior is a form of disguised control and manipulation, driven by a fear of losing their partner. Over-nurturers fear their partner’s independence and use their power to keep them dependent. However, for true happiness, both partners must recognize their own needs and nourish themselves without fear of losing each other. Allowing over-nurturing in a relationship disrupts its balance and harmony. A partner who accepts over-nurturing might have lacked nurturing in their own childhood and may be afraid to take risks, waiting for things to be handed to them. You must relinquish some control to allow your partner to contribute equally to the relationship. This way, both partners can experience the joy of giving and receiving. There is a blessing in feeling appreciated and loved by allowing your partner to give to you and by allowing yourself to receive. Holding on to someone through over-nurturing can lead to resentment if your partner eventually needs more self-sufficiency. You might find yourself accusing them of being too needy, when in fact, you encouraged this dependency out of fear of loneliness. If a partner leaves an over-nurturer, the latter might struggle to understand why, despite providing so much. Remember, a true relationship should not be built on a superficial foundation. Material offerings cannot sustain a healthy relationship in the long term. It’s the genuine connection, mutual respect, and shared growth that preserve a relationship’s strength and longevity. |