Relationships: Should you break up?

Forward
Introduction
Allowing change & growth
The Savior
Expectations & conditions
Insecurity & low self-esteem
Not being realistic
Ignoring the problems
Sexual intimacy
Losing the intimacy
Power struggles
Over-nurturing
Affairs
Not your authentic self
Freedom of self-expression
Fear of loneliness
Ownership, property or object…
Addiction to a lover
Lessons
Should you break up?
Ending a relationship
Spiritual evolving relationships
Greater evolved relationships
Relationships & Subtle Bodies
Conclusion

If you’re unsatisfied with the direction of your relationship, it’s important to identify what’s bothering you. Here are some questions to help you pinpoint what needs to change:

• Do you feel like a trophy rather than a loving partner?
• Are you being emotionally blackmailed with guilt trips like, “If you really loved me, you would do what I want?”
• Do you fear your partner will leave if you change physically?
• Are you always the one at fault?
• Does your partner try to control your choices, like how you dress, your social activities, or career moves?
• Do you have to give your partner your complete attention all the time to keep them happy?
• Do you fear your partner might become violent if you left?
• Do you worry they might harm themselves if you ended the relationship?
• Does your partner expect you to be exactly like them, always doing what they want?
• Do they feel cheated if you enjoy something they don’t, and argue until they get their way?
• Does your partner focus on what they are getting or not getting from you, making you feel guilty if you don’t please them 100%?
• Is your partner physically, mentally, or emotionally abusive? Remember, abuse is unacceptable in any relationship.
• Is your partner addicted to substances like drugs or alcohol and unwilling to acknowledge the problem and seek help?

Consider writing down what you might experience if you break up and how you will cope with it. This preparation can help you remember that you can move forward, even when it feels tough.

When evaluating your relationship, lists of pros and cons rarely work because it’s hard to weigh positive experiences against singular, explosive negative events. Ultimately, there are only two decisions when it comes to ending a relationship: stay or go. Trust yourself to make the choice that’s in your best interest.

If you’re uncertain about the dynamics in your relationship, I highly recommend exploring this resource on the signs of abuse for further reading. It’s crucial to be informed and aware.