Exploring Attachment, Divine Union, and the Sacred Path of Loving Another
In many spiritual traditions, there’s this idea that enlightenment demands detachment. Not just from the world, but from love itself—from the spouse, the lover, the one who knows how to reach into the ache behind your ribs and remind you who you are.
I’ve always found that hard to swallow. Isn’t love the most sacred thing we’re offered in this life?
We hear spiritual teachers speak of releasing attachments. And yes—if we’re honest, most suffering does come from clinging. From expecting someone to fulfill a hole we don’t know how to name. From trying to make love stay instead of letting it move, breathe, evolve.
But here’s what I believe with every fiber of my soul: true love isn’t the thing we must release.
We must release control.
We must release the need for another to complete us.
But not love. Never love.
Because real love—divine love—is not a cage. It’s a mirror. A fire. A practice. And yes, sometimes a holy storm that strips you bare.
When you touch someone with presence, when you love them not as a possession but as a soul—when you stop trying to bend them into your version of salvation—you’re not becoming less spiritual. You’re becoming more real. You’re becoming your highest nature.
Attachment says: “I need you to be mine so I feel safe.”
Love says: “I see God in you. And I choose you freely. Even if I can’t hold you. Even as we change—so long as we grow in ways that still deepen each other.”
The sacred exchange between lovers can become a portal to oneness. Not separation. Not renunciation. You merge, not to lose yourself, but to dissolve into something vaster than either of you alone could access.
Loving others is the highest form of loving ourselves. Because what are we really? Reflections. Fragments of one light. To love another deeply—without owning, fixing, or fearing—is another way to know Source.
If love becomes dependency, yes—release it. But if it is a place of expansion, truth, and raw beauty—why would the Divine ask you to walk away?
Some say the spiritual path requires solitude. Maybe. But maybe some of us are here to awaken through connection. Through conscious union. Through watching ourselves fall apart and be remade in the arms of someone who is not here to save us, but to see us.
Whether we walk alone into the silence or side by side in sacred union—both are valid paths to the Divine.
So, no—we do not have to abandon love to find God. We can love more deeply. More truthfully. Until all that is left is God.
