I’ve been exploring something I think is worth sharing to remind us of what we already deeply know. This isn’t about learning something new; it’s about shifting our mindset and transforming how we live.
Fear binds the world, but forgiveness sets it free. Years ago, I told someone that forgiving yourself is crucial because if you could not forgive yourself, you could not truly forgive others. At the time, I was led in spirit tell him this, but I didn’t grasp its depth fully as I do now. Here’s part of what I shared with him:
Love yourself and practice self-forgiveness. Without forgiving yourself, you may remain in spiritual darkness, hindering your personal growth. A lack of self-love creates imbalances within your soul possibly causing you to unintentionally harm others. You want them to recognize your pain, and when they don’t, you harm them. Sometimes our hurt drives us to hurt others. We think hurting others will help us feel better. We can’t see their pain because we only see ours.
When we fail to forgive ourselves, we fall into self-accusation, carrying the belief that we are guilty. Unconsciously, we project this guilt onto the world around us, directing it toward others. At the same time, others can influence and contribute to the reality we create—if we allow them to. It’s important to recognize that emotions like fear, rage, guilt, jealousy, anger, pain, worry, resentment, revenge, loathing, and envy are all manifestations of illusion. Among these, I believe guilt to be one of the most deceptive illusions, hindering your ability to live a joyful life.
Within you exists a part that resonates with Source—your Higher Self. Your Higher Self is pure truth, untouched by guilt or illusion. It is a constant, unchanging reminder that your true essence aligns with love, clarity, and authenticity, beyond the confines of false perceptions.
We judge each other at times in order to escape our own issues. Blaming someone else for anything we dislike provides a temporary sense of relief, allowing us to feel better about ourselves. When you place blame on others, you shift the guilt away from yourself. It’s not you who disrupted your inner peace—it’s them. But the truth is, no one can take the peace of God away from you except yourself, through your own choices.
By believing in the illusion that others are the source of your pain, you create a narrative where the responsibility lies outside of you—precisely where you want it to be. In doing so, you turn others into scapegoats. Ultimately, this approach perpetuates a vicious cycle. True freedom from guilt comes not through judgment, but through forgiveness—of others and, most importantly, of yourself.
What happens when you Judge others? Judge not lest ye be judged. (Matthew 7:1-5, Christian Biblical verse.)
I’ve been reflecting on the idea that when we judge or accuse someone else, we are judging and accusing ourselves. We often forget that we are our Higher Selves, navigating this material world. In this forgetfulness, we lose sight of our inherent innocence and allow our false perceptions of the world to cause us harm. Before I judge or blame someone, I pause and reflect. I ask myself, What is it about this person or situation that mirrors something within me? Am I judging them as a way to make myself feel better?
This process isn’t easy—it’s challenging to confront the possibility that the issue might lie within me. I tend to resist blaming myself, and when I do, it can lead to guilt. If that guilt lingers, it can become unhealthy. However, this introspection is crucial for breaking the cycle of judgment and cultivating greater self-awareness and compassion.
People, in general, often avoid facing their fears or guilt—it’s much easier to shift the blame onto someone else. However, I am practicing non-judgment and learning to see even judgmental people as innocent, simply unaware of the truth of who they really are. It’s true that misery loves company, but we don’t have to accept an invitation to that reality.
Forgiving others and sending them light and love is a powerful antidote to judgment. Light represents truth, and love embodies forgiveness. When we recognize that we all experience similar emotions and challenges at different points in life—though shaped by unique circumstances—we see that we aren’t so different after all. To truly love another is to love yourself.
From a higher perspective, none of us are guilty—we are all innocent souls, navigating life and learning its lessons. Guilt, at its core, can only serve the purpose of teaching us how to love. This is why forgiveness is essential: it breaks the cycles of pain whether you are forgiving yourself or another.
The Law of Divine Oneness helps us to understand that we live in a world where everything is connected to everything else. Everything we do, say, think and believe affects others and the universe around us.
It is difficult not to judge—it’s a deeply ingrained habit that requires conscious, lifelong effort to unlearn. When I catch myself having a judgmental thought, I recognize that I am expending energy—emotional energy that often manifests as a directed thought toward the person I am judging. Since thoughts are inherently creative, this energy is sent out into the universe, influencing both ourselves and the person we focus on.
Overcoming judgment requires consistent practice until it becomes second nature—a seamless part of a new way of thinking. When a judgmental thought arises, the key is to acknowledge it, consciously remove it from your awareness, and choose a different response. It is a choice—a choice between judgment and love. While judgment may feel automatic, it is, in truth, a decision we make repeatedly, and it takes effort to choose love instead.
If you judge the reality of others, you will inevitably judge your own. This tendency to judge rather than seek understanding disrupts inner peace. Judgment is rooted in rejection and rarely highlights the positive aspects of what is being judged, whether in others or yourself. To cultivate peace, we must replace judgment with compassion and understanding, choosing connection over separation.
By practicing non-judgment toward others, I’ve found a deeper sense of peace within myself. When I catch myself starting to judge, whether it’s self-judgment or judgment of others, I pause to reflect. If I’m judging myself, I consider what I’m critiquing and the lessons I can learn from it. If I’m judging someone else, I stop and realize the energy I’m directing toward them—rejecting them instead of practicing unconditional love.
I also recognize the dysfunctional dynamic I might create with that person when I send judgmental thoughts their way, as these thoughts can often be sensed subconsciously. Our thoughts have power—they are energy and a form of spiritual communication. Without saying a word, we can influence others, for better or worse, through the energy we project.
I don’t want to perpetuate conflict or negativity with others. Instead, I choose to embrace a different path—one rooted in love, understanding, and the vision of a better, more harmonious reality. This choice brings me closer to the ultimate reality of a more peaceful world.
Love is incapable of demanding or judging—it simply is. I am working with my Angelic Guides, Higher Self, and Spirit to embody this principle of non-judgment, focusing instead on forgiveness. My goal is to make this a steady and unwavering part of who I am. I know that mastering non-judgment isn’t something anyone achieves in a single day—it’s a process that takes time and commitment.
Thankfully, we are never alone in making choices like these. Take comfort in knowing that a Higher Source is always available to assist you if you remain open to its guidance. Over time, as you practice non-judgment and forgiveness, your reality will begin to transform. This shift can open the door to countless beautiful experiences and deeper peace.
When considering how we form judgments, it often comes down to our perception of good versus evil or right versus wrong. If you see the world only through this dualistic lens, it becomes difficult to practice acceptance and be without judgment. A more constructive way to approach these concepts is to think in terms of the law of cause and effect—actions and their consequences—rather than rigid notions of good and evil.
The Law of Cause and Effect states that nothing happens by chance or outside the Universal Laws. Every action has a reaction or consequence and we “reap what we have sown.”
Judgment diminishes others and causes harm, both to them and to yourself. Be mindful of your judgments—when you send out negative energy, you are, in effect, giving the Universe permission to return that same negativity to your space. When you judge, love is displaced, creating harm. Harm arises when love is removed from a space, and love cannot exist there again until it is consciously restored. Forgiveness is the key to bringing love back into that space. Embracing negative behavior with love doesn’t mean condoning it but rather transforming it by choosing love over judgment.
Ignoring negativity or pretending it doesn’t exist does nothing to heal it; it leaves the negative energy in place. True healing comes from acknowledging the negativity, then actively replacing it with love through understanding, forgiveness, and compassion.
Saying, “You did something wrong, but I forgive you,” doesn’t put love back into the space. That statement is still one of judgment and possibly makes things worse. However, if you stay out of judgment there is no need for forgiveness.
Conflict will never resolve conflict. The more conflict you put into the space, the more conflict there is. Acceptance is the key to how you put love into a space.
For more on overcoming guilt see: The Difference Between Guilt and Responsibility, Bashar Channeled by Darryl Anka.