Fear binds the world, but forgiveness sets it free. Yet, the hardest person to forgive is often ourselves. Without self-forgiveness, we carry guilt that dims our spirit, blocks growth, and seeps into how we treat others. This isn’t about learning something new but reclaiming a truth buried beneath layers of judgment and fear. Let’s explore how self-forgiveness can transform your life.
Embracing Self-Forgiveness
When we fail to forgive ourselves, we fall into self-accusation, carrying the belief that we are guilty. We project this guilt, blaming others for our pain. At the same time, others can influence and contribute to the reality of separation we create. Fear, guilt, jealousy, anger, pain, worry, resentment, revenge, loathing, and envy are all illusions that cloud our reality. Of these, guilt is one of the most cunning illusions, quietly undermining our ability to live a joyful and fulfilling life.
There is a part of you that resonates with Source—your Higher Self—pure truth, untouched by guilt or illusion. It reminds you of your inherent worth and that your true essence aligns with love, authenticity, and clarity beyond false perceptions.
Breaking the Cycle of Judgment
We judge each other to escape our unresolved issues, providing us a temporary sense of relief so we can feel better about ourselves. When you place blame on others, you shift the guilt away from yourself. It’s not you who disrupted your inner peace, it’s them. But here’s the truth: no one can take the peace of God away from you except yourself.
By believing in the illusion that others are the source of your pain, you create a narrative where the responsibility lies outside of you—precisely where you want it to be.
What happens when you Judge others?
Judging others inevitably leads to self-judgment, disrupting peace. Rooted in rejection, judgment rarely reveals anything positive.
We often forget that we are our Higher Selves, navigating this material plane. In this forgetfulness, we lose sight of our inherent innocence and allow our false perceptions of the world to cause us harm. When judgment arises, I pause. I ask myself, What is it about this person or situation that is revealed about me? Am I judging them as a way to deflect from myself? By confronting these questions, you dismantle the ego’s defenses and open space for compassion.
Confronting the possibility that the issue might lie within me is no easy task. Guilt often follows. If that guilt lingers, it can become unhealthy. However, this introspection is crucial for breaking the cycle of judgment and cultivating greater self-awareness.
People, in general, often avoid facing their guilt—it’s much easier to shift the blame onto someone else. It’s true that misery loves company, but that we don’t have to RSVP to that invitation. From a higher perspective, guilt is an illusion—we are all innocent souls, journeying through life and learning from its lessons. At its core, guilt exists only to teach us how to love. This is why forgiveness is so essential: it liberates us from pain, whether directed at ourselves or others.
Forgiveness: The Key to Freedom
Forgiveness isn’t about condoning harm; it’s about releasing its hold over you. Sending others light and love is a powerful antidote to judgment. Light represents truth, and love embodies forgiveness. When we recognize that we all experience similar emotions and challenges at different points in life—though shaped by unique circumstances—we see that we aren’t so different after all. To truly love another is to love yourself.
The Law of Divine Oneness helps us to understand that we live in a world where everything is connected to everything else. Everything we do, say, think and believe affects others and the universe around us.
Judging others is a deeply ingrained habit, but unlearning it is essential for inner peace. When I notice a judgmental thought, I remind myself that it consumes energy—energy that affects both me and the person I’m judging. Since thoughts are creative, this energy ripples into the universe.
Overcoming judgment takes consistent practice. The key is to recognize the thought, release it, and consciously choose love over criticism. Though judgment may feel automatic, it’s a choice we make repeatedly, and love is always the better option.
The Power of Non-Judgment
Practicing non-judgment has brought me a deeper sense of inner peace. When I catch myself judging, I pause to reflect. I consider the lessons it offers. If it’s about someone else, I remind myself that rejecting them only diverts me from practicing love.
Judgmental thoughts carry energy that can subtly influence relationships. Instead of perpetuating negativity, I choose a path of love and understanding, envisioning a more harmonious reality. Love doesn’t demand or judge—it simply exists. With the guidance of my Higher Self and Spirit, I strive to embody this principle daily.
There will be times when those who have wronged you are undoubtedly in the wrong. However, if you confront them with judgment and refuse to forgive, you remain a prisoner to your own anger. Forgiveness is a gift you give yourself far more than to anyone else. It doesn’t mean you condone what happened, but you’re choosing your peace over the weight of anger. This is empowering in its own quiet way.
Mastering non-judgment is not an instant transformation. Thankfully, we’re never alone—Source is always available to guide us. As we embrace non-judgment and forgiveness, our reality shifts, opening doors to peace and countless beautiful experiences.
The Law of Cause and Effect
Judgment often stems from viewing the world through rigid notions of good and evil, right and wrong. Shifting to a perspective of cause and effect allows us to practice acceptance and break free from the duality that fuels judgment.
The Law of Cause and Effect states that nothing happens by chance or outside the Universal Laws. Every action has a reaction or consequence and we “reap what we have sown.”
Judgment diminishes others and causes harm, both to them and to yourself. When you send out negative energy, you give the Universe permission to return that same negativity to you. When you judge, love is displaced, creating harm. Harm arises when love is removed from a space, and love cannot exist there again until it is consciously restored. Forgiveness is the key to bringing love back into that space.
Ignoring negativity or pretending it doesn’t exist does nothing to heal it; it leaves the negative energy in place. True healing comes from acknowledging the negativity, then actively replacing it with love through understanding, forgiveness, and compassion.
Saying, “You did something wrong, but I forgive you,” doesn’t put love back into the space. That statement is still one of judgment and possibly makes things worse. However, if you stay out of judgment there is no need for forgiveness. Understanding is the key to putting love back into the space.
Choose love. Choose forgiveness. Choose freedom.
For more on overcoming guilt see: The Difference Between Guilt and Responsibility, Bashar Channeled by Darryl Anka.